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Michelle Gray, Intuitive Readings and Certified Life Coach 

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You Are not Alone!

Posted on April 6, 2020 at 10:50 AM Comments comments (0)

Into the third week of self quarantine here in Illinois (some states are a little behind but not by much) but feels much longer. For those that live alone it can be pretty lonely. One of my good friends that lives alone says that she tries to find activities to keep depression at bay. She isn’t the only one having some issues. There is a larger number of anxious and depressed people struggling through this lockdown. Here are a few ways to alleviate an anxiety attack:


1. Breathing Exercises

During an anxiety attack a person starts to hyperventilate (or take in rapid breaths cutting off the carbon dioxide levels in blood and causing light-headedness). Learning to count to five while inhaling and then counting to five exhaling. Doing this for about 3 to 5 minutes will allow the panic to dissipate and calm the entire body.


2. Relaxation Exercises

Meditation and Yoga are useful to control the nervous system while relaxation responses when panic attacks set in. Meditation does not have to be sitting cross legged on the ground. Sitting in an upright chair or laying on a couch is just fine. If you are a meditation expert; great! Not everyone understands meditation to that level. This is about relaxing the system and symptoms of a panic attack. Taking a walk outside in the fresh air and breathing deeply can be a meditation. Laying on a couch closing the eyes and listening to a YouTube guided meditation for anxiety and panic attacks while drifting off works fantastic! Highly recommended!


3. Guided Imagery Exercises

This is a way to visualize a place that brings instant calm and relaxation to a person. For example: close your eyes and picture a beach scene with the sun warming your face, listening to the waves roll onto the sand, some birds flying low over the water. You can hear a few speed boats and jet skis rushing across the waves. The sun feels so good that you start to drift off while breathing deeply that your whole system feels happy and calm.


4. Exercise

Well this would ALWAYS be on my list! Physical activity releases endorphins flooding the body and mind with feelings of calm and happiness. Gentle exercises such as a walk or riding a bike (if accessible) are fantastic. Even the CDC (Center for Disease Control) is recommending walking outside at this time. Great to pep you up while calming you down. Plus losing some pounds as a bonus!


5. Call a Friend or Family Member

You are loved and you aren’t bothering someone if you reach out to them! Do not be afraid or fear that they don’t care! We are ALL IN THIS TOGETHER! This is about your well-being just as much as the people that are fearing getting COVID-19!


The most important thing to remember is learning to dial down the helpless feeling when anxious. It doesn’t help to feel like there is no control over the mind when it is racing. There are therapists out there (I believe that they are Essential workers as well) that are on call. Reach out.

 

Stronger Than You Know

Posted on April 2, 2020 at 12:00 AM Comments comments (2)

Good day! I feel that during this next month we must as a Nation; World work together.

This is not a political discussion but more a lesson on life itself. NO ONE was prepared for this

situation! So making this a blame game is stupid and pointless.

All National and International Leaders are working together to make the best changes

they can for their people. What is the point of saying the China Chairman, Our President, or any

other Leader do a better job or aren’t doing enough? At this point, everyone wants a cure

YESTERDAY!

I believe that there will be a cure because it is desperately needed. We can follow the

Guidelines by staying home too so as to not create more cases for the local hospitals that are

already overwhelmed at this particular time. Be mindful that those workers are working very

hard right now to help as many people in sometimes dire straits.

Thank you to all of the Medical Staff, the Essential Workers, and Businesses staying

open for all the people that need assistance at this time. This is a time to show thankfulness for

every person that is working extra hours and muscling through to be on the clock.

It is a great time to keep a Gratefulness Journal. For those that are rolling their eyes,

don’t knock it until you try it! There is a lot to be thankful for, especially now!

I wrote about Andrew Kap’s book “The Last Law of Attraction Book You’ll Ever Need to

Read.” One of the methods he mentions is Gratitude Stacking. This allows one to write down

ALL of the things that you already have (present tense) and that you want more of now and in

the future.

For example, I am grateful for my home, the food that I am able to prepare, I am grateful

for clean running water, for a bed, for books to read, for TV to watch, for board games, jigsaw

puzzles, and playing cards. I appreciate ALL workers, businesses, and Leaders to restore our

lives and economy as quickly as possible.

It takes a few minutes every day to say THANK YOU to the Universe that I have good

things in my life. I appreciate and acknowledge that I will continue to strive and thrive at this

time. There are so many things that you could mention right now! How about your LIFE? How

about this: you are alive!

I am sorry for those that have lost their lives to the Covid-19 and pray for their families

and loved ones at this time. I keep those in prayer every day. I continue to send strong healing

throughout the WORLD morning and night.

We are STRONG and WE ARE RECOVERING NOW. Know it to be true! Manifest your

reality that we are stronger than this Covid-19. Stand behind ALL of the Leaders. At this time,

hating any Leader proves nothing. This is time for all of us to be ONE against the COVID-19

that is decimating all Nations.

Stay safe! Stay home! You are stronger than you realize and Will make it through this

time!

Unite and Conquer Together

Posted on March 23, 2020 at 1:30 PM Comments comments (1)

I am sure I am not the only one that is keeping a Social Distancing from the News, Social Media Rants, and Doomsday Advocates. This was a wake up call for the PLANET! It has been reported that globally the ecosystem has taken a turn for the better. CNN reported that in China the average number of “good quality air days” increased 21.5% in February, compared to the same period last year, according to China’s Ministry of Ecology and Environment. Air pollution has decreased in China’s larger cities due to shuttering of factories, air traffic, and vehicles from the forced quarantine.

 

This forced quarantine is necessary for the health of people but it is not great for the economy nor social interaction. Most people would be thrilled to have a few days off from work stresses, right? That is so not true!

 

People thrive from their daily routines. Work is not only a necessity for a paycheck but keeps us mentally and emotionally balanced. We can whine and complain about our co-workers, staff, students, customers, or clients but what would you do if you didn’t have them in your life? Well we are finding out in a big way. I am positive a solution to this COVID-19 is found fairly quickly. I refuse to watch the News right now. I check in and then turn it off. Yes, I care but instead of who is to blame for this debacle, I would rather focus on getting to the remedy for the economy and well being of all.

 

It is sad to hear of the deaths of so many people. I am sorry for them. This is definitely affecting everyone! Most are following their Government’s protocol to stay safe. There are always those that will NOT do so. However, I am STILL NOT going to shame anyone for leaving their homes! We are already being forced inside. Fresh air is ALWAYS good for people. It is inside the buildings and airplanes (just a tube!) that we are breathing other’s air or touching surfaces.

 

People are gross! I hope that this forces people to wash their hands or at least be conscious of maintaining good hygiene. I also love Clorox Bleach or Lysol Wipes for cleaning. I think my house smells like a swimming pool a lot because I have always wiped down my surfaces. I have just added door knobs, cabinet pulls, and light switches. Reminder to clean the inside of your car: steering wheel, seats, radio, car doors, and inside handles. Here is another way to help (this is not voodoo or hippy dippy either):

 

Send out positive energy EVERY DAY to the entire globe. By emitting positive energy, prayer, and belief that a solution is iminent, we are one day closer to getting back to business.

 

China needs us as much as we need them. We are all connected! This is true!

 

If  anything, this proves how much we as Nations rely on each other for business, expansion, and growth. Unite and conquer for a better world now!


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Michelle

This Too Shall Pass

Posted on March 20, 2020 at 12:30 AM Comments comments (0)

This Too Shall Pass

 

So the Coronavirus is a real thing now. Was this God’s wakeup call to the World to practice self-care and self awareness? The entire planet is affected whether it is economically or physically. I want to believe that everyone is doing their part to not spread the Covid-19 to others by staying close to home.

Some people are not going to follow the mandated (by the President or State Governor) instructions of staying indoors. I have seen online a number of Tweets, Facebook, and other social media shamers that feel the need to point a finger to anyone that cannot follow the rules. Clearly not the first nor last time for rebellion. Just that it may lead to dire consequences for the individual or their family member.

I just saw on the news a beach down in Florida (how am I not surprised) full of people. Many of them were young; college age on their extended Spring Break. A young woman was interviewed stating that she didn’t feel that being out on the beach would get her sick. I cannot fault her for her views. Maybe she won’t; I hope she won’t get the virus. For her and her friends that were featured felt that they were immune to it.

This is a clear case of living her own life. Is it selfish? I am not sure at this point. Every news program, every article in magazines, newspaper, memes, etc. It is ALL that is featured! There is zero way of getting away from the fear mongering and gloomy forecast of the outcome.

EVERYTHING IS CLOSED! Social distancing is a mandate to prevent the spread of Covid-19. I have seen more people going for walks outside because like them, I get squirrely staying in my house all day.

I am not a huge TV watcher - anyone that really knows me knows that I cannot watch TV all day. Mostly because I am not a NEWS watcher and MOST programs are full of crap or bullshit. However, people have to do something during this forced quarantine. So have at it! Netflix, movies, board games, talking on the phone. Take a walk outside or bike ride. Keeping sane and calm is imperative. So maybe limiting the NEWS feeds might be in your best interest.

There is some good coming out of the restrictions. Many countries are seeing a decrease in smog, industry polluting, and clearer water ways for wildlife. It is nice to see some good news from the restrictions.

I believe that we are all connected and people just want to get back to their routines as soon as possible. At this time, it is important to stay safe for yourself, your family, and others that you are normally within contact. Stay safe and have faith that this ends soon.

This too shall pass.

 

This is Love?

Posted on January 30, 2020 at 1:40 PM Comments comments (4)

This is Love?

 

I love watching fairy tale romances such as Disney’s Cinderella or Snow White. The innocence of the first love of these young girls finding their Prince Charmings has really been what most young children see as the future for dating and possibly marriage. Of course, it is supposed to be a story that makes one feel good; sappy and sweet. Something that we all aspire to achieve as an accomplishment.

Now no laughing or gritting your teeth if that hasn’t been exactly the happy ending you experienced! I like to think that more people can identify with a Shrek-type story! An Ogre that is minding his own business swept up on a quest that finds the “right” girl in the end. It was still superficial in many ways but the beauty wasn’t the outside appearance but who was inside that mattered and what each was seeking.

Everything comes down to love? Can love matter so much? A good 80% of fiction books, music, and movies are about love or romance.

Fact: Cuddling, hugging, and kissing someone you love can instantly reduce stress, increase feelings of calm, trust, and security thanks to oxytocin, (considered the “love or cuddle hormone” that makes one feel tranquil and loving) while improving mood as a result of flooding our center with dopamine (a neurotransmitter that plays a role in pleasure, motivation, and mood).

As people we thrive on connection and interaction everyday. Thus the reason that people are looking for love. That isn’t the only reason. Verbally, mentally, and physically being connected can energize, and motivate.

For the most part what most people want is the following scenario: Two people meet, they fall in love, get married, have kids, and then life begins. True! Life becomes a lot more interesting when children come on board. It is love unconditionally. Putting time, effort, and money into the family can be a big yes.

All week is spent working, driving back and forth from the job, picking up the kids from school, sports and activities practices, homework, school functions, etc. Weekend rolls around and it is the kids’ sports to attend, neighborhood parties, vacations. So much to do in a week. The years go fly by.

The best days that feel like forever are gone in a blink of an eye. Where did the time go? How do couples lose the spark? How can something said so innocently turn into an argument or better yet an ending of a relationship? Where is the love?

Life gets in the way. We wouldn’t trade any of the fun times for the world. Yet the divorce rate gets higher by the time high school rolls around. Of course, the answer is money! It is also time to really communicate, be together as a couple, who does the majority of the work at home or raising the kids, etc. It is real for some; an excuse for others to move on to someone else.

Dopamine gets replaced with cortisol (the stress hormone). It becomes “too much” to talk about the problems: hidden (or right out in the open) alcohol/drug use, outright abusive action (mostly verbal but some experience physical. And it isn’t always the women that get abused), infidelity, and money. There is never enough time between work, kids, and family that have shattered the one thing that mattered most: love!

It is broken at its very core. The same person we would have walked in front of a bus to save, we gladly throw them under that same bus because of built up resentment regardless of their feelings and actions. Self righteous and justified. Those that refuse (because of course, it their spouses fault) to go to therapy have already made the decision to get out. Who knows? For many it became a toxic, negative, and bitter exchange that everyone in the house (drama) could feel daily. No going back! For what? The happy memories are minute compared to the accusations, passive aggressive actions, and victimization that ensues.

Then what is love?

If love is to be in our lives then we must also put forth effort, energy, and awareness. For without those, there is no “us” as a couple.

The fairy tale ending that was envisioned from long ago doesn’t seem to fit the mold of today. But it does have something that we all need in our lives: connection with purpose. Intimate relationships that are thoughtful, respectful, and loving can keep a measure of happy ever after in marriage and partnership. This is LOVE. When we are seen, heard, cherished, respected in all areas of our lives, we in turn pass that on to those around all of us. A mission that all of us can embrace!

 

Welcome!

Posted on December 6, 2018 at 11:10 AM Comments comments (5)

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Articles

As a child our fantasies of being something from a magical world or fairy tale was fun, happy, and encouraged to “go play” by our parents. We had costumes, play houses or forts made out of couch pillows and time just stood still. It was real because we could make up our rules as we played in this castle or in a battle against the bad guys. We made up the words as we played together and sometimes alone. Happy outcomes every time!

Then we go to school and those fantasies are discouraged or told that that isn’t “reality.” Unless a child is put in acting school, of course. For the most part, school and afterschool activities, growing up, and getting ready for the real world throws cold water on dreams that are “outside” the norm.

College should be an easy choice for kid these days and yet parents that don’t ‘earn enough” money tell their kids that going to such and such University is not even in the “cards”. Already a fantasy of being “somebody” is being squashed and the reality of not “making enough money” or “not smart enough” or not good enough” deletes the possibilities of being anything they want based off their parents income and

We still fantasize about something really want such as a beautiful house, car, or some place to travel but we say “that’s never going to happen!” We stop SEEING our dream because our reality has concrete feet. All of the the barriers we put up and for what? Man, it is so sad! It was so easy when we were little kids to have it all; be it all. What is different?

Are we not all just grown up children? Oh I know, we have matured (or just aged) but I have met lots of people that are not very grown up at all. They hold a job but they are more dramatic than some of the actors on some of the TV shows. WE tell ourselves based off a paycheck that we cannot have (fill in the blank) but it isn’t true!

Last Monday I stated that I plan on traveling by airplane once a month to a location for pleasure. On Tuesday a friend called me to ask if I was interested in going to Phoenix, Arizona (never been) and I said yes. On Wednesday, my sister called to ask if I wanted to celebrate Christmas in Salt Lake City, Utah (never been) and now my kids are coming too. I already am going to Orlando, Florida in October and spending Thanksgiving in Annapolis, Maryland. I always have travel spending money.

See your dream and make it easily obtainable. Be playful with achieving something; anything! You drive a car and it works for you. How hard is it really to drive the Ferrari or BMW? Manifest that it comes to you. Visualize you driving it and don’t dismiss it as “fantasy!” It was so easy to be a fairy princess! Be the fairy princess in the BMW! No difference just more lines on your face. ;)

Stop saying that it cannot happen! Let it BE REAL and it WILL BE REAL really. A material thing such as a house, car, travel is easy! I will draw the line at getting an actor and/or actress to “date” or “marry” you. But hey, stranger things have happened. Manifest your Reality today!



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